sweet

Bismillah ar Rahman ar Raheem

a friend asked us married friends of his a question..
"are there any sweet ways to make sure your marriage is conflict-free?"

well, to that I answered:

There's no point in getting married if you want it to be conflict-free. It's part of the package, and perhaps, those are the things that'll make it enjoyable and satisfying, be it we're able to handle it accordingly, if not wisely.
There aren't any sweet ways that I know of to make it conflict-free, but there are certainly many sweet ways to handle the conflicts, and those are the things that make it sweet and beautiful.

If your own life got conflicts in it, why do you expect it to be conflict-free when you have 2 souls, 2 life joined together?

You should welcome anger, tears and frowns, cuz if you don't, they'll keep on banging on your door. Perhaps they'll leave, but they'll come back even stronger. Keep it longer and they'll be strong enough to break the door and start an amok in your house, wrecking everything you've built in it. Welcome them, let them in and entertain them. Serve them with patience and reason. After that, bid them farewell. Don't let them stay, cuz laughter and smiles will always sneak in once they're gone.

Wallahua'lam. This is actually a reminder from me after going through 5 months of marriage to the future me, who may be years older than I am now. There'll come a time when I will need to look back at these words and think.