hakeem

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Teringat satu babak dalam drama Islam KTP, sebuah drama Islamik dari Indonesia.
Alkisah seorang bapa yang ada anak yang sedikit bermasalah, lalu pergi mengadu dengan Bang Ali.

Bapak: Sudah bermacam cara aku guna, cara lembut, cara kasar, semua tak menjadi.
Bang Ali: Kau sudah cuba cara berhikmah?
Bapak: ???

Asalnya aku sendiri tak faham, tapi alhamdulillah selepas mengharungi rumah tangga selama setahun dan melihat macam-macam keluarga terdekat dan jauh, I think I get the gist of it. Sebelum ni, aku selalu fikir cara lembut adalah paling berhimah.
Cara lembut, baik itu tak semestinya berhikmah, cara kasar itu juga tak semestinya tak berhikmah. In fact, boleh jadi tak buat apa-apa pun adalah satu tindakan berhikmah.

Berhikmah itu bila mendatangkan kesan pada hati.
Dan harus juga faham, kita berusaha, tapi hasilnya, Allah yang tentukan. Yang penting, kita usaha carikan, apa tindakan yang terbaik. Hikmah itu boleh datang kemudian, boleh datang serta merta. Kita usahakan saja.

Membuatkan aku teringat kata-kata seorang brother Arab masa menuntut di UK dulu.
Dia komen tentang nama aku, dan antara yang disebut adalah, sebelum seseorang tu mencapai tahap Hikmah/Hakeem, dia perlu dulu ada Haleem.
Haleem itu sabar, Haleem itu lembut, Haleem itu sopan. Haleem itu menyalurkan emosi at the right place and at the right time, for the right situation. 

Hilm is an intelligence that, in our terms, allows someone to control their anger, even if their anger is justified. It allows you to, when you are justifiably angry, control it and not manifest it.

-wiki-

(okay wiki isn't really a reliable source to quote but yeah, I believe this is correct) 

Hakeem/Hikmah padaku perlu ada trial and error. Cuba buat, tengok betul ke salah, bersabar, dan betulkan dan betulkan dan betulkan, dan sabar dan sabar dan sabar. Maka di sini perlunya hadir Haleem. Boleh jadi terus betul dalam cubaan pertama, tapi tidak mungkin akan terus betul pada setiap percubaan. Dan mungkin, lagi banyak kita silap, lebih berhikmah kita, sebab kita dah cuba banyak possible wrong ways, maka mengecilkan ruang untuk berjumpa solusi yang lebih tepat, mungkin dalam situasi yang berbeza tapi similar.

Kerana Hakeem itu bijaksana. Hakeem itu bukan accidental. Hakeem itu perlukan pemikiran dan pertimbangan. Hakeem itu bukan ikut nasib. Hakeem itu bila well-informed, bila berpengalaman.

Aku masih banyak berbuat silap, masih terlalu jauh dari berhikmah, tapi nonetheless, alhamdulillah thummal hamdulillah, dikurniakan isteri yang cukup penyabar dengan silapku.

Risau bila kerap kali nampak dalam berita, kes-kes dera anak, pukul isteri teruk-teruk. Kalau tak ada Haleem, apakah akan ada Hakeem? Kalau tak ada Hakeem, ke mana hala tuju rumahtangga dan anak-anak?

C&A

I stood in awe, gaping at the titles.
"The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog"
It caught my eye and then looking at all the other titles left me hoping I had lotsa money so I can read all of them.
I guess I can safely say now, that I wanted to be a Childhood and Adolescent Psychiatrist.
I often look at kids and really, just wonder what's in their mind, what's their parents are like, why they are behaving like so etc etc.

Reminiscing the past, when I was in Form 5, I thought about becoming a psychologist (as well as other dreams, writer, photographer etc). I wanted to know what makes people think what, behaviors and all those things. I like to observe, simply looking at people. I wanted to know more about them.
Oh well, sometimes I dreamed of being able to read minds.

But now as I'm in the medical field from God's planning, the closest that I can get to that is to being a psychiatrist. I can remember, the first few attempts at clerking and presenting a history during Mental Health Rotation, my lecturer said I did it more like a psychologist rather than you know, the proper medical psychiatrist would do.

I know for some people, psychiatry ain't really medical, but hey, I don't care. People often smirks at psychiatrists, but I do believe doctors are supposed to help people, even mentally. It doesn't put psychiatrist short from any other specialties.

One more year till I graduate, be it I didn't flunk anything. Ameen, insyaaAllah.

sugar

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as a future doctor, I am often expected to be able to take care of the family medically, and the expectations kinda get at me sometimes.
every now and then when I'm at home, my usual role is to check my parents' BP and glucose level (we got a glucose monitoring kit at home).

just now my dad's glucose reading was really high. the highest so far. and really, he was quite alarmed, and asked me what level of glucose that he would need to take insulin. well, it's not about the level, it's about the control. if with oral antihyperglycaemic agent, the sugar is still constantly high, then insulin is the next step.

i know it must be tiring and annoying for him when I reprimand him about his sugar intake every now and then. being in an army, plus being genetically XY, you can't help but feel your ego being tarnished when you take orders from your underlings, and I kinda understand how it feels, and I feel bad about it but I just had to, because I love him.

right now, a pretty nice timing I must say, TV Al Hijrah is airing a medical related show about diabetes, and he's watching it. I can feel he is very worried about it. especially about the fact that he could go on insulin. the idea of needing a jab everyday is really unpleasant, and I have to say, it is one of the most common thing doctors say to scare patients to control their sugar intake, and for a good reason, really. another really worrying thing DM patients would dread to hear is about having to take dialysis. and true enough, I find it very sad when I see people needing dialysis, 3-4 times a week. it costs a lot, and it just drains your energy. it literally sucks your blood out of your system.

well, having nagged him about sugar intake, I should do so myself. I guess it's the stress, so I tend to crave for sugars myself, honestly. and really, I'm not good with disciplining myself. I got risk factors too. I'm gaining weight, and particularly my abdo is getting flabbier (central obesity is more worrying), and I got family history of it too, so yeah.. I ought to be very worried now. haihhh.. I should listen to myself talking about sugars.
Allah totally detest those believers who happen to say things, but they themselves don't walk the talk. that applies to me, now. *sigh*

I need to exercise!

imam

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Me: Tadi dorang ramai-ramai pergi makan kat luar. Tetiba sorang ni datang sebelum dorang gerak, pesan "Ko tak gi makan kan? Nanti Isya' turun surau eh? Jadi imam untuk budak-budak perempuan."

Wifey: Amboiii~ jadi imam solat je tau, bukan imam hidup dorang!

Me: ^__~

"you've gained EXP points!"

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I have to admit that there are times after prayers that I simply read du'a and not really making du'a with raja' and khauf but when I do ask that Allah make me with stronger imaan to battle my daily trials, I often get the shudders after that. Sometimes it even made me become really careful with what I wished for.
I think it's just simply due to the experience of whenever I do make that du'a, that is when the trials gets real hard, and quite a lot of times, I failed it.

I guess it's a matter of believing in your own self, and that Allah is always there to back you up.
Believing that He doesn't test you with anything that is beyond your capabilities, and that He is testing you with what you can handle, that He KNEW that you ARE able to handle it, so why don't you yourself believe in you? Personally, it's not something that I find easy to actually plant deep in my heart. I always feel inferior, even to myself, and that is what I need to chuck out of my heart. And the irony; my complacence and procrastination.

And yes, trials are meant to teach you anyway. Trials are tarbiyyah from Allah. And well, I asked for it. I asked for a stronger imaan, and kablaammm!! Allah gives me tougher trials to make me strive for the better. Kinda like working out, or training yourself to run. You gotta push yourself for the extra mile for you to improve (which I literally need to do for my physical wellbeing TT___TT ).
Or perhaps like playing RPGs like Pokemon. You get a boost of EXP points if you fight stronger Pokemons, right? That's how life is anyway.

What was I expecting anyway? For my imaan suddenly to boost up out of nowhere? Suddenly I have such immense spiritual strength that I can resist just about any worldly attractions? I guess that's what a lot of people are expecting, and tell you what, it ain't gonna happen. Sometimes yeah, you get a boost of imaan after watching something inspiring, a great video, heard a great talk from somewhere, or simply observe something that really knocked your heart hard that it topples over in submission to Allah, and that's Allah's help for you. To maintain it, that's the harder part, and that is when Allah will test you greatest, based on your capabilities. Don't back down just yet. even when you feel you are weak, cuz you are indeed able to overcome it. You just have to put some more faith in yourself. Which is... yeah, quite a hard part for me...

Do men think that they will be left alone on saying "We believe" and that they will not be tested? We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false. 

Al Ankabut 29 : 2-3

And I have to say, Alhamdulillah, thummal hamdulillah for He answered my prayers always readily, often immediately. He's always there, really, the Ever Listening. Rest assured, He is always there for us.
And I have to say this hundreds of times, Astaghfirullahal 'azheem! for me to not answering my own prayer after He granted it.

p/s: I've written about this same topic a lot of times already, but yeah, as I've written in my previous posts, this is me reminding myself in case I forgot. and I forget things a lot of times. these are just mainly rants for myself. heh.

mow-ney2~

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Attended MSI last night, and it was given by a respectable man that I always look up to.
The way he explain things, it just shows that Islam was in his everyday life, as if all of Islam is in practice and he can simply answer questions and to top that, in a witty way.

Anyways, last night was about Tauhidullah, and tell you what, I've heard about the subject before, pretty much the same thing, but it revived my Iman, knocked on my heart hard and made me ponder about the recent things that I'm facing.

The greatest impact would be regarding Allah as Raazeeq, the Sustainer. I'm often worried due to the fact that I'm not yet working and I am unable to support my wife with material nafkah, often worried if she has enough to it, worried that we didn't have much contingency money et cetera.
It has always been Allah who gives, really. And to actually believe in that, is sometimes hard.
Allah is Al-Malik, the Owner of All things, thus He can give, and take anything from us at His pleasure, and we need to have redha in that. Redha, simple word, but very deep meaning.
With regards to not being able to support my wife, perhaps it's more of a sense of responsibility, being afraid that I'll be questioned about it, but yeah, Allah gives in any way possible, beyond our imagination.
And alhamdulillah, just yesterday we've got quite a huge sum of money (well, to me that's huge). Oh well, it's her money, I believe.

And then he pose a question. How come there's still suffering and poverty and starvation when Allah is indeed the Sustainer?
That brings us to the problem of distribution. We need to acknowledge that some are given wealth of some kind, and in it are proportions that are meant to be distributed, that are meant to be a rizq of others.
Yesterday's talk brought us about the many problems with governments (and not just Malaysian, really) and gave me some insight on how a Muslim government's attitude should be with regards to treating the Non-Muslims etcetera. Such a beautiful country/world if Islam was ever implemented fully.
Who should we prioritize when giving scholarships, wealths etcetera. We've allowed us to be hated due to the injustice that we are doing now.

And there's also some parenting tips shared.
Age 0-7 years old is the play and exploration period, not the discipline period, so perhaps, we should just let our children play.
Age 8-14, the discipline period. During this period is also the period when solat should be introduced, and by the age of 10, we are allowed to hit our child if he doesn't want to pray. But of course, hitting with love.
15-21 is somewhat the period to be friends with them, if I didn't hear it wrongly... huhuhu... of which the period that we can't treat them like kids anymore. It's demoralizing them, actually.

And with regards to rizq, I respected him when he said that his family rarely eat KFC and such cuz he feels that it is a waste. You are paying more for the branding and promotion and not really for the food. He often compare the price with how many more people can he share a food with the same price. E.g. KFC vs if he buy a chicken and cook for ikhwahs. and yeah, that is how I feel sometimes. But well, sometimes you feel like you want some luxury for yourself and can't seem to resist it sometimes... *sigh*
Hopefully me and my family can live humbly, thinking about others as well as we eat and do things, being grateful with everything we have. And it starts with me.

Alhamdulillah...

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